Drum Major Problems

ALL Drum Majors have the same problems!
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Ok so I'm the head drum major and my brother literally informed me yesterday that his wedding would be the 12th of September, which is a Friday night during football season...I am not even sure I can get out of band for it and I'm afraid to ask...I already tried to get my brother to move it a week later on our bye week but he won't budge...
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

Well, in all honesty, I would go to my brother’s wedding. I would beg and plead with my director to let me off for that one game. Marching band is a temporary thing, but your brother is going to be your brother for life, and you’ll be disappointed in yourself, and he’ll be disappointed in you if you miss his big day. 

Story time:
Some months ago I informed you guys that I was announced leadership in my Marching band, but in a separate post, I told you guys that my grandbig got drum major for my marching band!
Well that post didn’t actually post and has been sitting in the drafts for all this time and now he feels like I forgot him.
So here’s a big Congratulations to one of my best friends/my grandbig for being named Drum Major for the MKs!!! <3

Hey so, in case you were curious, my Big Sister is one of the drum majors for the Blue Devils, and I’m really proud of her. :)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
I'm a newbie assistant drum major. If the head dm isn't available then I take over. One day my director asked me to get everyone ready so I was telling everyone to get in their seats because we were about to start then I was told that by a couple members that "I'm not their drum major" and "they don't have to listen to me." They said that in front of everyone and I felt like crap especially when the others started to ignore me. That wasn't the first time and I just don't know what to do.
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

Tell your director about it, and make sure that he makes it very clear that your words are his words, and you need to be respected and listened to.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
So our band is losing a lot of people next year because of graduating/quitting. I'm afraid that they may be doing it because I'm from the guard and we've never had a drum major from guard. Also, we have a Junior and Senior Drum Major at my school and I heard that our Senior Drum Major may be quitting, leaving me to run a band on my own. He left me by myself for the first time with the band at our open house and I had never been in charge of the block before. Any advice or words of wisdom?
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

Step 1. Don’t panic. 

Your director will still be there, and if you’re a newbie, then he’s gonna have to understand that you’re not all knowing in the ways of Drum Majoring. Ask for help and try to reach out to drum majors for schools around your area and see what they say. You’re not alone.

I just got selected for drum major in my marching band! I am so excited! (My friend also got picked too it's gonna be AWESOME!) :) just thought I'd share!
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

AWWW YEAH!! CONGRATS!!!

Asker Anonymous Asks:
While being drum major, did you ever miss being out on the field and having fun with other members of your section?
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

Well, yes and no. I missed certain things about being T8, but it had more to do with the relationships I had than the actual marching. I enjoyed being a drum major (fr the most part) more than I enjoy marching. But I lost a lot of… “friends” in the process. 
In hindsight, the people who were my true friends never really stopped talking to me, and I’m still best friends with most of those people even today. But at the time, popularity was a misguided goal of mine, and I found myself very lonely in the position of power. People didn’t like me for a number of reasons, But I came out a stronger woman and musician from the experience.

So to answer your question more clearly: did I miss being on the field? No.
Did I miss being with other members of my section? yes 

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Okay, so next year I'm going to try out for DM my sophomore year for when I'm a junior. I currently play the tuba in my marching band, and I have been the only one on this instrument for a year since the last tuba graduated. Past tuba players have been denied the DM position because of lack of tuba players in my band. I finally convinced my band director to get another tuba player because I secretly wanted to try out for DM. I'm just really worried that he's too happy with finally having 2 tubas
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

That’s a problem that a lot of people deal with. I think you should still try out, but be very aware that you might not make it. The sound of the band needs to come frist.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Is it still possible to be a drum major in college without being a high school drum major? My director isn't likely to pick me because my section is very small and we can't afford to lose even one. But I'm hoping I could still do it in college.
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

Absolutely!!

Asker Anonymous Asks:
I just got selected to be my school's DM!
drummajorproblems drummajorproblems Said:

Congrats!!!